At this point in my planning process, I have realized one thing… all of the helpful “reminder services” I signed up for on every wedding planning website in cyberspace really aren’t that helpful. I am finding that they cause more stress than actually serve a purpose. Do I really need to be reminded, in the dramatic fashion of a screaming email, that I am about to forget to do something very important like sign up for dance classes so my new husband and I can wow our guests with some fancy footwork – or – have the officiant repeat our names multiple times so I am 100% confident that he will do a perfectly clear annunciation during our ceremony? Really now, must I fret about these items right now?
I think most brides will agree that they already combed through multiple checklists and made mental notes that far surpass any email reminder service. I am, however, guilty of buying a PLANNER. I admit that even though I have helped my clients plan at least a hundred weddings in my career, I didn’t embark on this journey empty handed. I bought a copy of “Your Stress Free Wedding Planner” by Judy Allen. Now don’t be surprised when I tell you I only looked through it once and never touched it again. The problem here is that it is not designed for destination weddings. There are a few planners on the market that say they are for destination weddings… but the two hours I spent in Barnes & Noble trying to decide what planner to buy didn’t convince me of that fact and I left the supposed destination wedding planners for others. At the end of the two hours I was so stressed (the triple shot latte didn’t help) that I ended up buying the only planner that I could remotely relate to at that point in time and it was the “stress-free” one.
Anyway, I am not rebelling and removing myself from all of these “helpful” mailing lists because I am curios to see what other items are deemed crucial at what point in the process. If anything really does prove to be an immediate need, I will want to pass that info on to my clients in the future.
Tip for friends and family: Do not feel it is your responsibility to remind the bride of anything. Simply make yourself available to help and should she request it, take her lead on tackling what needs to be done.